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After a nasty outburst on a family holiday, our listener this week is struggling with words from her mother that can’t be unsaid. As the insults chip away at her self-esteem, examples of toxic behaviour in childhood bubble to the surface and she’s questioning everything she thought she knew about her role in the family. But is she really unlovable, a bad mother, and ‘broken’?

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what’s going on.

TW: This episode talks about sexual abuse.

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