You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse – out now: UKUS (affiliate links)

Desperate for closure after a string of abusive relationships throughout her life, our listener can’t help but cling on to rage and even hatred towards those who wronged her. As acknowledgment and atonement grow ever more unlikely, she asks how to deal with the hurt and anger.

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what’s going on.

We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.

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