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Our listener begins to spot red flags in her brother-in-law’s behaviour, including massive invasions of privacy and public shaming of their children. She’s worried his ultra-religious views and need for control have not only traumatised his wife, but her children are at risk too. Our listener asks if her sister is somehow enabling his abuse, and more importanly how can she protect her?

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what’s going on..

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