You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse – out now: UKUS (affiliate links)

TW: Violence

To those on the outside, our listener’s mother has always been the generous, kind and loving parent that’s been unfairly denied access to her precious grandchildren. But dig deeper and there’s a lifetime of shaming, gaslighting and even excusing physical abuse. Our listener has been given expensive gifts, huge public displays and fancy holidays, but what’s the true cost to her and her family?

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what’s going on.

We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.

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