How to Tell if You’re a People Pleaser

If you often find yourself bending over backwards to make others happy, even at the expense of your own wellbeing, you might be a people pleaser. It’s a term that gets thrown around a lot, but what does it really mean? And why does this tendency develop, especially in those who’ve grown up with narcissistic […]

What makes a good apology?

Apologies can be tricky. We all know that feeling when someone says “sorry,” but it doesn’t quite hit the mark. So, what makes a good apology? More importantly, how can you, as the recipient, tell the difference between a genuine apology and one that’s just lip service? Here are seven things that make a good […]

What is Narcissistic Rage, and How to Handle It

Have you ever encountered someone who reacts explosively to even the slightest criticism or setback? This reaction might be what’s known as narcissistic rage. The impact of living with a parent or partner prone to outbursts of rage can lead to people-pleasing and the feeling of “walking on eggshells”, sacrificing your own needs and emotions […]

What is Covert Sexual Abuse?

When people talk of sexual abuse in a trauma context, they’re usually talking about overt sexual abuse. However, another form of sexual abuse exists, and it’s something that can be much harder to identify and understand. Covert sexual abuse involves actions that are sexual in nature but don’t include sexual contact, making it a subtle […]

What is passive-aggressive behaviour and why is it harmful?

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Communication is the backbone of human interaction, but not all forms of communication are created equal. Among the various styles, passive-aggressive communication stands out for its subtlety and often masked hostility. It’s like a poisonous plant disguised as a harmless flower, wreaking havoc on relationships and dynamics. We’ve seen some examples of passive-aggressive behaviour in […]

Is it time for a “friendship break-up”?

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Friendships are a vital part of our lives, providing us with support, joy, and companionship. We often share personal values or political and religious views with our friends; sometimes it’s a shared sense of humour; or we enjoy the same hobbies and interests. Our need for connection has been part of human behaviour from the […]

Why New Year’s resolutions are setting you up for failure

If you promised yourself that this would be the year you’d finally commit to the gym, start journalling, or escape debt, you’re not alone. Like millions of others, you may already be preparing to throw yourself headfirst into big changes, thinking that sheer determination alone will empower you to achieve your goals from January 1st. […]